Charming Profiles

Our month long Charm School event continued with a class on profiles led by Lady Aphrodite. Some of the info provided at the class is listed below. Thank you so much for hosting this event Aphrodite!

The opinions in this note card are mine. I also give credit to Trillia Criss for writing part of this discussion.

What’s in a profile? We all like to get to know the people we interact with, but how much information should we give out in the beginning? How much should we give out to someone we really don’t know, and where do we put it that is appropriate. Lets break it down per tab: 2nd Life, Web, Interests, Picks, Classified, 1st Life and My notes.

2nd Life:

Photo - Lets start with a picture. I think the best is a head shot of your self. If you want to use photo programs to enhance your backgrounds or put a name in it ok. Just don't detract from your face. I know some people put a picture of them and another person. Ok but how do we know which is who.

Groups - I understand we keep some groups hidden. Thats fine, but to hide all your groups means you are hiding something and to be honest are not worth getting to know. So things like your clubs, stores, places you RP at and discussion groups tell others a lot about you.

About - If a submissive is under protection, consideration or owned, they should have that in their profile. It is important for Dommes' to know that the submissive is taken and there might be some limits she has to be careful of. I always put in my profile who my sub(s) is/are. (note; if you are talking to a Mistress and you really like her or think you are going to be a good match put that here as well. Other Mistress won't engage you in a private talk if your interest is another Lady. It will also get that lady to notice you.) Something else that always gripes my behind are people who write stupid stuff like, “if you don’t like it, kiss my a**.” I think that is so crass and undignified. Certainly not the makings of a good Domme or sub. Makes the person sound like they are demanding respect and attention and they don’t care what anyone thinks of them. If that’s the case, I don’t think much of them, and certainly wouldn't want them as a friend. It’s the first impression they give to others. It’s certainly the first impression I get. So what do you put here. Things that don't fit anywhere else. My opinion is to do this last after you have filled out the rest of the profile. You will be surprised all the places to put information.

Web:

Most people don't use this tab. But you can put a personal web page here if you should want to. Do you have a picture web site you are keeping all your sl pictures put that here. Do you have a business in SL and have a web site for it put it here. A blog could go here. You are only allowed 1 web page link.

Interests:

Believe it or not, most people like to know a little something about the other people they are talking to. Doesn't mean we need to know your blood type. I wouldn’t mind seeing something about what the other person likes in music maybe, or if they are into sports, or anything that would give me a clue to how they live. It gives me something to talk about with them. Even more so if we have some of the same interests in life. It could even just be a hobby.

Picks:

This section is normally for places in SL that you want to recommend. But it can be used for many other things. People you know and want to show off.

Classified:

1st Life:

I don’t need to see a rl pic of someone in their 1st life section. It’s nice to see sometimes, but not necessary. And some people are not comfortable showing their pic. That’s very understandable. We do like some anonymity on sl.

I would like to know the rl age of the person I am talking to. You may ask why that is important and here is my answer. Depending on the age of the submissive depends on how I am going to treat that submissive. I will respect each person I interact with, that is a given, unless they should prove they are not worth it. But, I find I have more in common in daily life with someone who is closer to my age. Doesn’t mean I won’t interact with someone younger.... just means I have more things in common to talk about with someone my own age, or close to it. I’m talking about daily life things here, not just D/s or bdsm.

I also would like to know what time zone they are in. I don’t want to see the -3 g whatever. I just want to know what country. I can figure out some things for myself. It also gives me an idea of the language barrier there might be between us.

My Notes:

But... Now you have a mistress. You’ve taken that step to fulfill someone’s needs, and she to fill yours. How much information do you give to her now? And where do you put it, ie phone numbers birthdays, addresses and so on. This is where you can put it with out anyone else seeing it.