Welcome To The Dominion Femdom! Established October 17, 2008.
The Dominion is an international femdom community, owned and managed by dominant women. Women rule.
Below you'll find the rules for conduct. More detailed information is provided in embedded notecards towards the bottom of this page. We suggest you read all of the information provided at the first available opportunity.
Please enable voice if possible, even if only to hear. We use it extensively.
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▀ WHAT WE EXPECT FROM YOU ▀
All males and female submissives must kneel and are expected to be polite and deferential. This includes addressing all dominant women with their preferred title (Miss generally works but read profiles and ask). Ask permission before IMing a lady or kneeling at her feet (more about expected submissive conduct below).
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• Dommes, we also expect you to be polite. All forms of D/s interaction must be consensual. If you haven't negotiated it, domination, humiliation, name calling, etc. are not appropriate (more information for dominant women and our policy on consent below).
• Only real life females may dominate at Dominion. Transgendered ladies are included in our definition of "real life females."
• Ladies who switch are very welcome, but we ask you to either choose to dominate or submit here consistently and do the other elsewhere. Common sense please - if you're going to dominate, please consider hiding your collar and having SOMETHING about being a switch/dominant in your profile.
• No prostitution or financial domination. Please remove all tags or titlers referring to such. We have nothing against it, but we don't do it here.
• No child avatars, weapons, or disruptive attachments/behaviours, etc. Our staff will determine what we consider to be a child avatar, weapon, or disruption and will let you know if there is an issue. If you are unsure, ask.
• Subs are not allowed to be nude unless instructed by a dominant woman in his or her company. Ladies, if you wish to leave your sub nude on sim as part of a punishment, please contact a staff member to see if it is possible.
• Commonly accepted BDSM etiquette applies: respect collars. Don't interfere with a scene. Contact a lady if you have an issue with her owned submissive.
• The Dominion supports safe, sane, and consensual play (SSC) as well as risk aware consensual kink (RACK). Play safe and be responsible.
MORE DETAILED INFO:
(For blog purposes, imbedded 'notecards' are listed below)
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▀ VISITOR TAGS ▀
We have a visitor tag if you would like some extra time to read the rules and check out the community. Our visitor tag is not for opting out of our rules, but rather to give you some time to orient yourself and see what our community has to offer.
-You can wear the visitor tag for two hours.
-Males must address all dominant women with their preferred title.
-Polite and respectful behaviour is expected.
-Visitors must stand out of the way of general interaction and observe. You are welcome to ask questions and greet, but if you want to participate in the activities, please remove your visitor tag and adhere to the sim rules.
Visitor tags can be found at our public landing point and at our info wall in The Courtyard.
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▀ NEED HELP? ▀
Contact a staff member. A complete list of our staff is available on the info wall by the main seating area in our Courtyard. Look for "DOMINION STAFF," "DOMINION DOYENNNE," or "DOMINION LIAISON" tags. Please respect the time and energy of our hardworking and all-volunteer staff.
Have a question, suggestion, complaint or concern? Please send a NOTECARD to a staff member or to the First Mistress, Evangeline Eames.
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▀ MORE! ▀
Website: www.DominionFemdom.com
Blog: http://dominionfemdom.blogspot.com
Confessions Blog: http://femdomconfessions.blogspot.com
Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/groups/10402
Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/DominionFemdom
Flickr: http://www.flickr.com/groups/dominionfemdom/
Welcome To The Dominion Femdom!
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(Embedded Notecards)
More Info For Dominant Women At Dominion
Welcome to The Dominion Femdom! Whether you are an experienced dominant or brand new to femdom, we hope you'll make yourself at home. Below you'll find a bit more information about our community and what we expect from our dominant ladies.
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▀ TIPS & A BIT MORE ABOUT US ▀
• First and foremost, please make sure to familiarize yourself with our rules and our policy on consent. We expect you to know them and adhere to them.
• You can expect to be treated with respect and deference in our femdom environment. If you are harassed or abused, please contact a staff member. You DO NOT have to tolerate this type of behaviour at The Dominion.
• The Dominion is by women, for women. We believe femdom is not about servicing the subs or fantasy fulfillment, but about providing a fun, safe, and respectful environment for dominant women to enjoy. The subs are here to amuse us, not the other way around.
• The Dominion has no queens or goddesses. We do not have different levels of Mistresses. All dominant women here are equal. The purpose of our titles is to help you identify staff members who can help you if needed.
• Not every sub likes to be called names and humiliated. You CAN insist subs address you properly and are respectful. You CANNOT verbally abuse or harass a sub just because they are submissive and you are dominant. Good manners are appreciated and expected from all of our members.
• We respect your right to dominate as you please and welcome ladies with all styles. Please respect the styles of other ladies. Not everyone is a humiliatrix or a sensual dominant. You may find some practices strange, too soft, or too harsh. We hope you will learn from others and that we can learn from you.
• Like many forms of BDSM, a situation that appears abusive might be fun and thrilling to both participants. Never assume anything. If you have a concern, simply ask in IM if everything is okay. Any dominant worth her salt will be happy to clarify a situation for you. If you feel a situation is not consensual, please contact a staff member to step in.
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▀ HELP & RESOURCES ▀
• We can't "teach" you to be dominant nor do we promote a "right way." We encourage you to decide what works best for you. If you are new and want to learn, we suggest you attend our domme-only and mixed discussions and observe interactions in our public spaces. Please check our event calendar for our Mistress Mentoring sessions and discussion events at www.DominionFemdom.com
• As part of our effort to offer real female domination, we can "voice verify" you by having a brief conversation, privately or in open chat. Please contact a staff member when they are on sim to help you. We will add your name to our list, kept on our info wall.
• The Dominion thrives on volunteerism and contributions from our members. If you want to get more involved check out our info wall in the courtyard for information about our Community Support Team, our Discussion Roulette Program, or just notecard a staff member about your desire to get involved.
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We hope you enjoy your time at The Dominion Femdom. Welcome!
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More Info For Submissives At Dominion
The Dominion Femdom is a FEMDOM ENVIRONMENT. It is not a coffee shop, kinky club or sex hangout. We like to have fun, but keep in mind women are in charge and to be respected at all times. We expect all males and female submissives to be polite, courteous and deferential. Common sense and good manners should guide your behaviour.
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▀ TIPS FOR PROPER CONDUCT ▀
• Most importantly, arrive prepared to comply with sim rules. If you are having technical issues, real life distractions, or on a text based viewer, please postpone visiting until you are able to kneel and be attentive.
• Say hello when you arrive and excuse yourself when you leave. We appreciate real life and technical issues can prevent this at times, but do your best.
• Don't ignore a dominant lady who addresses you. Pay attention to local chat and voice if possible.
• Don't speak over dommes or constantly dominate the conversation.
• Flying is prohibited. Running, jumping, and other distracting animations are also discouraged. Walk or teleport to your destination and kneel as soon as you arrive.
• Furniture, swings, vehicles and other objects on which an avatar can sit are reserved for the ladies. Kneel on the ground, off ledges, walls, and other surfaces. Kneeling means at least one knee on the ground.
• If you need to go AFK, move your avatar to a quiet area and if possible, use "away mode" on your viewer or one of the AFK attachments available in SL like this:
• Read ladies' profiles to see if they have a preferred form of address. Not all ladies care to be called "Miss" or "Lady" and most dislike "Mistress." Being attentive to a lady's preference in all things is very appreciated.
• Don't criticize, ridicule or correct other submissives. This is not your place. If you have a concern about another submissive's behaviour, please contact a staff member.
• Make sure you read, understand, and comply with our Community Rules. If you have questions or require clarification, ask a staff member. If you need peer support, Liaisons are submissives on staff who will be happy to assist you.
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▀ MORE INFO ▀
• You do not have to tolerate abuse nor are you required to comply with any request or order given by a dominant woman outside of the sim rules. If you want to decline a request or participation in an event, do it respectfully. Please familiarize yourself with our policy on consent. If you feel your right to consent is being disregarded, contact a staff member. If you have a problem with a staff member, notecard your concern to Evangeline Eames, the First Mistress.
• We offer sub only discussion events throughout the month. Check our calendar at www.DominionFemdom.com for the next Sub Drop In event. We encourage you to attend to learn from your fellow submissives and share your experience.
• Contribute and participate! We want you to have fun, to be heard at discussions, to entertain the ladies and to help keep Dominion a fun place to be. Our community thrives on participation and volunteerism. See our info wall in the courtyard for information about our Community Support Team, our Discussion Roulette Program, or just notecard a staff member about your desire to get involved.
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We hope you enjoy your time at The Dominion Femdom. Welcome!
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The Dominion On Consent, SSC & RACK
The Dominion supports SSC and RACK with a heavy emphasis on the "C": CONSENT
SSC = Safe, Sane, and Consensual.
RACK = Risk Aware Consensual Kink
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▀ CONSENT ▀
Before engaging in any type of play, be it casual or a more structured scene, make sure that consent is requested and given. If something makes you uncomfortable clearly state that you do not consent to participate. If the other party does not recognize your 'NO", tp out or log off and contact a staff member to deal with the situation. Both dommes and subs have the right to decline any sort of play at any time. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, even if it was previously given.
▀ PLAY ▀
What do we mean by play? This includes:
• engaging in sexual or BDSM type activities
• engaging in humiliation play
• performing a task for entertainment purposes
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▀ SAYING NO AND ACCEPTING NO ▀
When any party declines play we expect it to be done respectfully and preferably in IM. If either party is in distress we encourage you to say 'No' as soon as possible in whatever way you see fit.
We expect dommes and subs to accept a "no" immediately. Encouragement can be offered with a "maybe" but a clear and concise "No thank you" should only have one response: "Okay." Encouraging, convincing, belittling, humiliating, or otherwise trying to manipulate a "yes" out of a someone who has said "no" is not only disrespectful, it is against SSC and RACK.
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▀ SAFEWORDS/TRAFFIC LIGHTS ▀
We encourage everyone to use safewords or the traffic light system in play. A safeword is a pre-determined word given to the submissive to use when he or she wants all play to stop immediately. Choose a word you are unlikely to use in any other regard and do not hesitate to use it. That's what safewords are for.
Alternatively some people prefer to use a traffic light system:
GREEN=all systems go!
YELLOW=proceed with caution
RED=STOP NOW
Please make sure you have discussed a safeword or the use of the traffic light system with your play partner before proceeding. This is the responsibility of BOTH parties. If the domme has not discussed the topic then the sub should bring it up. Safety is not the sole responsibility of the dominant. Do not abdicate personal responsibility!
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Go slow, be safe, and have fun!
The Dominion Femdom
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